These are very important questions. Let's first take a look at the two words that make up the phrase, Self and Love. These are two of the most important concepts in human life experience. Yet they are two of the most ambiguous, confusing, and misunderstood. Both Self and Love are so ambiguous, confusing, and misunderstood because they often perceived as things. Objective things that can be mutually understood in the same way, just as any other object can. However, this is so far from the truth. Self and Love cannot be mutually understood in a particular way because they are bothsubjective experiences...no two are alike.